Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. One day as I was having a pity party at the hospital, my friend that shot me showed up with a book in his hand. With tears in his eyes, he handed it to me. I opened it up and on the inside cover it read, “I will never forgive myself but I hope someday you will”. Well, now I had tears in my eyes and together we shared an unforgettable moment. More importantly, I promised myself that I would never blame my friend for shooting me. I decided right then and there – just three days after becoming paralyzed – that I would take response-ability for my future and he must do the same. After all, I picked up the gun. I owned the fact that I was equally involved in the events of that Friday afternoon. This mindset, this shift in thinking helped me empower myself to succeed or fail on my terms without a “built in” excuse. We always have the ability to respond. We can be positive or negative, happy or sad, but it is our choice and nobody can make us mad.